As we're winding down this month of unpacking our Backstory we wanted to give you a few practical tools and ideas for moving forward into the next stage of your Superhero journey. While there are many wonderful treasures that can be found in our cultural and family histories, everyone has areas of brokenness in their Backstory as well. In order to move forward, we have to sort through what we've found in our Backstory and decide which things are treasure to be carried with us, and which are rubble to be discarded. The pieces of our backstory are like stones that we pick up and use to build the castles of our future - some stones are precious gems that are strong and valuable, others are mere rocks that will crumble under the weight of our callings. It is essential that we know what we're carrying.
The first step in this process is to take an honest look at our Backstory. Most of us have lenses of obligation, nostalgia, or ego that distort our ability to see clearly. This process can be hard, especially if you are used to keeping a facade of perfection or your culture has valued silent protection of reputation over honesty. Recognizing areas of dysfunctional rubble in your life is not dishonoring of your family history or culture, it's not airing dirty laundry, or rejecting the treasures that you've gained. No one wants to admit that they have areas of imperfection and weakness in their life or history, but, no matter how perfect anyone looks on paper, we all have places to grow and heal. We must be willing to look honestly at our Backstory so that we can begin to deal with it appropriately.
Next week we will discuss practical ways to sort through the things that we're carrying from our past and determine which is treasure and which is rubble, but everything starts with this place of honesty. You have permission to not be ok. You have permission to need help, healing, wholeness, forgiveness, freedom, life, and love in areas of your life - even if your life looks great. This does not mean that you are ungrateful or a victim of your Backstory - quite the contrary! Recognizing areas where you need healing is a huge step toward walking in victory and wholeness in your life. Recognizing areas of wounding can be a painful experience, but you cannot heal a wound that you don't know exists, or aren't willing to acknowledge. Although this recognition may feel like moving backward, it will lay a foundation for sustainable, healthy creativity and carry you forward into your future in wholeness.
Have you tried being honest with your Backstory? Did you find any resources that helped you work through your treasure or your rubble? We'd love to hear! Feel free to share in the comments.
Emily is a creative entrepreneur, born in the South, raised in Colorado, and loving life in Brooklyn, NY. As the co-founder of Bright Ideas she spends her time doing freelance photography, writing music and blog post, designing pretty web things, drinking coffee, experimentally cooking, and exploring NYC. You can listen to Emily's music, follow her adventures on Instagram or Twitter, see what inspires her on Pinterest, check out her photography on Facebook, or hire her here.