Silence the Naysayers: Ringleader Regret

This is part of my ongoing LinkedIn Series: Ten Tips for Ten Days, you can read more and watch the one-minute video at the bottom of this post.

Silence the Naysayers: Ringleader Regret

The Ringleader is a master entertainer who lives to fill your mind with reruns of his show, "Mistakes of Your Life." He thrives on throwing every mistake, missed opportunity, or failure into your face to keep your attention focused on the past. 

Regret's goal is to preoccupy you with either the painful past or the missed-potential future. To this end, he employs a gang of miscreants named Shoulda, Coulda, and Woulda to create an endless highlight reel of your worst moments.

Striving to keep you from reaching your actual potential or moving forward into your future, Ringleader Regret works hard to keep you from seeing that mistakes are a doorway into growth, and failure is an opportunity to change the future in a positive way.

Turn off the TV.

Like Comparison & Colonel Criticism, the Ringleader's đź’©only works if you listen to it. YOU GET TO CHOOSE! You get to choose which voice to listen to and which mindset to cultivate. Your mind is vital to your creativity and you need to be proactive to protect your thoughts.

Choose to look away from Regret's never-ending reruns. He doesn't have anything new to say, you've already heard it all. If it comes up again, you can either ignore it or say, "So what?" So what if you've made mistakes in the past - we all have - what matters is how you choose to live now. 

Don't "should" on yourself, rather than living in the merry-go-round of Shoulda, Coulda, and Woulda, start doing the best you can with the tools in your hands. That's all any of us really have to work with and it is good enough for you to start now. 

Open the door to Hope.

Regret’s nemesis is Hope, who works to show you the possibilities that lie on the other side of your shortcomings. Hope destroys the hypnotic power of Regret by replacing his endless reruns with the bright potential of your creative future.

Hope reframes your past as the experiences that have helped make you who you are today, good and bad, salty and sweet. Contrast is required to make anything beautiful, and you wouldn't be who you are without all of your experiences. Hope gives you permission to be wholeheartedly alive in your life right now.

Dare to dream again!

Dare to dream again. Regret kept you locked in his horrific, pseudo-reality of the past so that you won't dare to dream. What a jerk! Prove him wrong. Do it anyway! Who said that Regret gets to tell you what to do, how to live, or not to dream? He's not the boss of you. Tell him to shut up (go ahead), and then start dreaming! 

The world is waiting for your unique creative expression to shine! We need exactly who you are to bring exactly what you carry to the table. I can't wait to see what you bring!

You can read more about The Naysayers & their Nemeses in our book, Bright Ideas: Light Up Your Creativity, or in additional blog posts here.

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LinkedIn #TenTipsTenDays

I'm doing a series on LinkedIn this week called #TenTipsTenDays where you spend ten days giving a tip each day that relates to your field. I'm focusing, of course, on creativity. This is a super fun way to get the word out about what we do here at the Bright Ideas Collective and share a little creative wisdom with my LinkedIn crew.

If you haven't been on LinkedIn in a while, there's quite a party going on over there now. You should check it out! If you hop on, come find me and let's connect


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